I Missed that Freeing Faith

When I initially started up this blog last year, I did so with the intention of documenting my journey to a healthier body, mind, and spirit.  Cliched and corny?  Yeah, a bit.  But I was at a very deep low.  I had just seen a picture of myself at a friend’s wedding, and the site of my sinewy legs, thin arms, and sallow cheeks made me cringe.



Granted, I wasn’t as emaciated as when I was in the depths of anorexia recovery, trying to claw my way out from being 88 pounds.  But I was definitely too small, too fragile, not ENOUGH to support the training I was doing and stress I had with family and work.  So I asked God to help me.  To help me gain the weight I desperately needed.  To help me cut down on the amount of exercise I was doing.  To help me seek Him first and His plan for my life.


And I felt free.


The ability to eat whatever I wanted whenever I wanted felt inviting and like a gift.  It was almost as if God gave me a wonderfully wrapped present, and every day I awoke I literally tore open the bright wrapping and thought to myself, “Yum!!!  What will I eat today!!!  Pancakes?  Bacon?  Yum!!!”


Life was surely grand.  I ate.  I rested.  I ate more.  I rested.  Rinse and repeat.


But sure enough, I started to fall back into my old ways, my old habits.


I dug out the Renaissance Periodization diet templates I bought from long ago, and rationalized that I needed to gain weight, but in a “healthy” manner so as not to gain too much fat.


I upped the intensity of my training (reps and sets and poundage all went up) because in order to “get swole”, I needed to also train for hypertrophy.  If not, all the food I ate would immediately turn to fat.


I traded rest days for active rest days and strapped on running shoes to put in a few short miles on the dreadmill (that’s not a typo, by the way.  Dread.  Mill).


And the freedom I initially experienced, the wonderfully wrapped gift God had for me, started to diminish, the ribbon on the present wilting and falling apart.


There were moments when the light of God’s love and His renewing faith shone through the mess of macronutrients, number of repetitions of bench press, and grocery lists for the week.


I meditated on Psalm 23 for seven days straight, three times a day, and felt the warm touch and embrace of my Father–but as soon as I stopped seeking His word for healing, I turned to my RP template to give me comfort (controlling my food=controlling my life).


I listened to wonderful speakers during our school’s Christian Emphasis Week and left the daily chapels empowered and motivated to seek God’s love.  And then I’d head to the gym for an extra body-building type session and forget (well, more like ignore) the things He was calling me to do (and let me tell you, He wasn’t telling me to do 5 sets of 20 of tricep extensions).


Eventually I recognized these issues, the avoidance, the fact that I was falling back into old routines that were unhealthy both for my body, mind, and spirit.  But what happened then?  Was I able to find that freeing faith again?  If so, how did it happen?  What about now?  Am I still lured by the call of my RP template and barbell training? So many questions to answer, and so rather than make this post a 15 page book, I’ll share more about this on my next post.   🙂



I feel like Britney.

Oops. I did it again.

Pulled my rib, that is.

Is this a sign that I am getting old? That my body is slowly starting to fall apart?

I am reminded of our school’s alma mater whenever I picture myself growing white hair (which I have none of, thank you very much) or wrinkles around my eyes (those I do have, sigh):

“They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength
They shall mount up with wings as eagles
They shall run and not be weary
They shall walk and not faint
Teach us Lord, teach us Lord to wait.”

I teach at a local Baptist school, so if the refrain sounds familiar, it’s because it’s from Isaiah 40, one of my favorite chapters in the Old Testament. There’s something grand and breathtaking about these lines.  To me, it’s reassuring that during those moments of weakness and fatigue, God is there. AND He’s not just “there” to watch us to be a cheerleader with His megaphone and poms-poms proclaiming, “Wow, that’s tough. Keep on going!” He’s actually there to endure with us, to lift us up out of the ashes, and to give us, well, LIFE.

But our victory is contingent on the fact that we must wait. We must be patient.

And that is a lesson I am still learning.

To back track a bit, I pulled my rib on Tuesday night, exactly a week ago. Previous to this, I was in a semi-I’ll-take-a-break-from-lifting-and-exercising phase. Why? Well, I’ll probably write about that later, but basically, my body was saying to me STOP. STOP. STOP. In all capitals. And in bold. And italicized.  So with the zeal of the Holy Spirit behind me, I said to myself, yes, I will take a break and let my muscles heal, let my systems reconnect, let the peace of the Lord wash over me.

And…that lasted about three days.  No, actually two and a half.

Lack of patience?  Lack of waiting on God to make things right?  Yup.  But why?  If I know Jesus to be Lord, to be the maker of all good things, why could I not listen and wait on Him to heal my body?


Because as a person obsessed with exercising, training, wanting to be better, faster, stronger, I couldn’t resist the lure of the barbell.  I craved the instant gratification of sweating dripping down my face after doing hypertrophic squats gave.  I wanted the feeling that I was accomplishing SOMETHING by setting up to bench.  I needed to feel validated, that I was working hard to attain some lofty powerlifting goal.

So I went to train on Tuesday night and on the board were squats and deadlifts.  About an hour into training, I bent over to get a grip on the bar for my umpteenth deadlift.  I took my breath, sat back, and POP.  It wasn’t audible, but I sure as heck felt something like a bubble explode on my side.


Oddly enough there was no pain–well, no pain until later that night when I couldn’t lie down or sleep because taking a breath, rolling over, basically moving hurt.  So I took the day off.  No, actually, I didn’t take the day off, as I had “things to do” and “places to go”.  School was starting on Thursday, so I had to get everything set for my classes and my kids needed mommy to run around with them.  Also, I had to go to training, because, well, you know, lifting weights is LIFE (that was sarcastic, by the way).  And so I went to train on Thursday (I know, CRINGE!!!!), but prior to getting to the powerlifting facility, I said a short prayer.

Lord, protect me.  Let me know what you want me to do.  I am not sure that I should be training, so please make it clear if I should go to the gym or stay at home.

And wouldn’t you know, the coach was locked out.  He was there.  We were there.  But we couldn’t get in.


Flashforward to Friday, and miraculously, the pain started to dissipate and I could move around fairly easily without discomfort.


And so I started thinking about what I could do for training.  What movements could I work to help with my weak deadlift form?  Could I bench?  As all of these thoughts ran through my head, I bent down to pick up my shoe and POP.

Again.  I pulled my rib.

This time the pain was immediate and in the front.  I couldn’t stand up straight or take a breath without excruciating pain.

Many thoughts raced through my mind as I sat down, doubled over with fear and the feeling of stabbing needles radiating through my body.  I had to teach.  Could I even give the English lesson for the day?  I didn’t think I broke anything because there was no traumatic accident this time, just a feeling of something shifting.  Would the pain lessen if I tried maneuvering the rib back into place?  Should I go to urgent care?

It was at that time that I sent up this prayer.  Lord, I am sorry.  I am sorry for not listening to you.  I know you want me to rest, and I couldn’t listen to you.  I was so focused on myself and what I wanted, that I was blind to the fact that you are giving me this time to draw closer to you and seek you for healing–inside and out.

So here I am, four days later, and after a good chiropractic and acupuncture session, I am feeling better.  Still not perfect, but at least I can move around without needles shooting through my side.  And even better, I hear God very clearly right now:


I told Him I would, and honestly, it is HARD.  I am not sure how long I will be away from the barbell and weights for, but slooooowly, God is revealing more to me about WHY I want to even be in the gym in the first place (more on that in another upcoming post).

So here I am, praying for Jesus to renew my strength and help me to soar on wings like eagles.  More importantly, I am praying for the patience to listen to Him and wait for Him because our fallible, fragile bodies are only made powerful and whole by the hands of the great Creator.

The Bingham Bench Bunch

It’s Christmastime!!! Bring on the endless cups of eggnog (the adulterated version is perfectly fine, thank you), unstring the balled up knot of multi-colored lights (it’s always that middle bulb that doesn’t work too!), and make a list of gifts for the jolly bearded man in the red suit to deliver on Christmas Eve. There’s something quite nostalgic, something spectacularly special about this time of the year. Sadly, this merry holiday has already passed, yet one tradition I have partaken in for the last 12 (or 15?) years is the one I look forward to ever since “Jingle Bells” starts playing on the car radio and my husband unearths the blow up Santa in our front yard.

This wonderful tradition is the annual Bingham Bench Christmas dinner.

A little background information for those that don’t know what a Bingham bench is. Waaay back when, when I was an oboe-playing, flannel wearing, Doc Marten totting high schooler, I hung out at the Bingham bench. At our high school, cliques were noted by where one hung out during breaks: the football guys decked out in aloha shirts by Pauahi Hall, the skaters with their stickered boards in the middle of the quad, the drama folk dressed all in black by the theater building, and us by the math classrooms which were located in Bingham Hall. Every time I had a free moment between English and history, I would trek over to those wooden green tables, unload my Calculus and Physics textbooks, sit on those slats, and talk story with whomever was around. Among the number of fellow band geeks, orch dorks, science whizzes, and bookworms that congregated at the bench, was a core group of gals–around six of so–I always gravitated towards. It may have been because I was the extremely shy, almost mute, incoming freshman who knew no one on campus, and they were the sweet individuals who would smile at me as I made my way to the hang out spot and move their bags to let me sit next to them. It may also have been because they lived nearby me in Aiea, so we naturally exchanged phone numbers and car pooled to band rehearsals and cross country practices. Whatever the case, I loved these gals. And so when we got our diplomas and headed off to all corners of the world for university, I was quite overwhelmed with the thought of losing touch with these lovely ladies. This was before the age of the internet and cell phones, so I resorted to using a calling card to keep in touch with my bestie at the University of Washington, or writing snail mail letters to my other pals way up in Boston.

Although some time has passed (more like 18 years, gasp!) since we walked across that Blaisdell stage to shake the President Scott’s hand and receive our high school diploma, happily, we are all still friends. One of the reasons why I think we are still in contact with one another is because from the first year we all left our Bingham bench behind to pursue degrees in medicine, art, law, and the like, we made it a point to try to reconnect with one another during Christams break for a leisurely dinner. There have been years when I was struggling with recovering from anorexia that I could not muster up the energy to go to these meals, but these restaurant parties were events I secretly looked forward to, as this band of high school gals always made me feel safe and comfortable. Initially our conversations at these dinners revolved around the guys we were dating, the newest bars to frequent for the best drinks, and what we would do after college graduation. As time went on, those same talks turned to the difficulties of not stressing out at work, planning for upcoming weddings, and what having a child would be like. Now that we are all basically married with kids (or babies are on the way), there is a new ease, a comfortability that comes with age.

This past year’s dinner in particular was one to remember. Not only was there a torrential downpour that started before the sun rose and did not stop even after the sun set, but we had planned the potluck meal for the day after Christmas, which meant my family (and I’m sure the other gals’ families) were extremely exhausted from the kids tearing open their wrapped gifts and sufficing on sugar cookies and milk for energy. Physically, I wanted a nap. But I needed to see my friends. So the four of us bundled up, grabbed umbrellas, and headed to my friend’s home.

As always, the spread of fried chicken, thai noodles, strawberry kale salad and other delectable dishes were wonderful, yet the real highlight of the night was just sitting. Sitting and talking with my friends. One just got married a few weeks ago. Another is due to have her third child in 2018. One other is on vacation from her medical research work in Boston. There were a few more gals at the dinner, and I had the pleasure of sitting on the plush sofa, chatting with all of them. The rain was still falling heavily and there was a nip in the air when we left four hours later, but my heart full and warm.

After this past year’s dinner, I laid in bed for awhile, thanking God for such tremendous friends. I know that no matter what may happen in the future, they are the ones I can call with any problem. I was reminded of the times when they didn’t quite know what to say or do when my mother passed away in college, but rather than leave me alone to battle the fears and worry I had, they just listened to me. No words of advice. No “tough love”. They just WERE.

And so, on this eve of a new year, I wanted to write a post to tell my high school friends thank you. I wrote about it before, and I will probably write about it again, but thank you. The fact is, they were, and still are, just like me. We came from middle-class households where our parents worked as teachers and accountants. Our fathers drove Camrys and we thriftfully shopped at cheap boutiques when looking for prom dresses. The prestigious high school we went to is known for many of its’ attendees coming from affluent backgrounds: homes on Hawaii Loa Ridge complete with elevators and fountains in the front yard, new BMWs for birthday presents, and the like. My pals, however, knew what it meant to have to work hard to achieve what they wanted–rarely did they complain about staying up into the wee hours of the morning studying, as they saw a dazzling report card and stellar test scores as their way to a better and brighter future, namely entrance into a prestigious university with scholarships to match. I hung around a persevering bunch, and to this day, I greatly admire how they were able to power through sleepless nights and numerous years of college classes, endure even later nights studying to get into medical or law school, and beyond that, eventually achieve their dreams of becoming successful general practitioners, pharmacists, engineers, and civil lawyers.

Many would see their professional accomplishments as the end all be all, yet despite their titles and accolades, these gals are still the same down-to-earth women I hung around with during those crazily embarrassing braces and permed hair years. One switched career paths to become a science teacher after going to college for engineering, and then took time off from the classroom to be with her two sons. Ensuring her boys grew up in a loving and supportive household was of utmost importance, and so she spends her time nurturing them and sharing her motherhood advice with fellow new mommies. Another one of my friends moved back to Hawaii to be closer to her aging parents even though the pharmacy field in the islands was scarce and it was challenging for her to find a job. My friends are incredibly intelligent women, yet they know what their priorities are and embrace the jobs they have, the families they have grown, and the places God has led them to.

These ladies are something special. And so every year when the tinsel starts coming out of the box and the kids adorn their gingerbread homes with gum drops and icing, I look forward to the annual Bingham Bench Dinner. This meal is more than a connection to the past–it’s a reminder of the blessings God has bestowed upon me throughout the years, and more importantly, is another reminder of how He has designed us to uplift and encourage one another. As 2017 draws to a close, I look forward to the memories I get to make with this lovely bunch of gals in 2018. Happy New Year, indeed.


Social Media…Farewell???

I am old.

Well, not really that old, but old enough to remember the days when I didn’t have a cell phone attached to my hand. If I wanted to talk to friends at night I had to sit with my coiled-wire Snoopy phone to my ear. I memorized the numbers of my closest pals because I dialed those digits so often, and even now I can still recall pressing the familiar “455” in order to speak with my best Pearl City pals.

Now I have an iPhone, albeit a beaten up iPhone 5, but it’s still a smart phone that enables me to contact friends from around the globe through my Facebook app. This same phone has it set so that I don’t need to memorize numbers to talk with people–all I need to do is press their name on my contact list. With this great technology, and it is pretty remarkable because I can now Google map how to get to a certain location without the stress of unfurling and refolding a paper map, is the sad fact that I can use my phone for good (checking movie times online instantaneously) but also easily get caught up with social media and all the distractions it brings.

For the past week, well, almost a week, I have refrained from posting videos of me squatting, benching, or deadlifting because I noticed that those activities were starting to define who I am. Namely, I didn’t (and still don’t) want my identity to be “that small girl that lifts a lot of weights.” Instead of immediately putting up a shot of my legs flexing when I pulled sumo or my triceps bulging as I attempted a bench PR, I have instead been putting up images on IG that show what I believe to be important–my family and God.

The first day I decided to refrain from showing the social media world my training for that day, I felt a bit off. Normally after I was done with lifting, I’d collapse in a sweaty heap on the floor, pick a video that I had of me lifting, add a quirky or cute caption, and then press share. But now, without having that normalized action in the cards, what would I do? I started to stretch more, which was nice, but then I just ended up going home early. And WOW. What a difference that made. I didn’t realize that I spent so long lounging in a sweaty heap, oggling over IG and FB. It was then that God spoke to me: Limit your phone usage. Don’t go online so much. Use your time to devote to me and your family.

At first I thought refraining from opening up my IG app would be a piece of cake, but then my lazy quiet time before bed hit, the time I normally would turn to social media to unwind. And I had to put my phone aside. Let me tell you, it was a challenge. I’m a bit ashamed to admit it, but there are many times at night, when I’m so mentally and physically drained that I would veg out scrolling through Stefi Cohen’s videos rather than play cars with Shogun. Or I could not move myself from the supine position on the living room carpet to play Shopkins with Misha, and instead chose to read up on Powerlifting Women on Facebook. It’s a sad tale, when the people I care most about, my children and husband, took a backseat to checking my online accounts.

So what did I do when faced that challenge? I hid my phone. Yes, you read that right. I put it out of view, still plugged in and charging to the wall outlet so my morning alarm would ring, but nowhere in immediate hand range. Keeping that device out of sight made it so that I was fully engaged with my children, whether it be rolling on the ground and tickling my daughter or putting together number and letter puzzles with the little boy. And what happened if the phone was in reach and I checked the screen to see my notifications? I immediately opened up my Bible app, and turned to a verse that I was meditating on that day.

It’s amazing that the longer I have been away from social media, the more I don’t really miss it. I am beginning to realize that I am not a person cut for moderation, whether it be with my phone, exercise, food, or, well, life. When I was in the throes of anorexia, I would either eat only a Subway sandwich a day and that was it, or if I ate more than that (oh, the horror!) I would end up drinking only diet soda and munching on carrots the following day to balance out the calories. One mile running was never enough–it was either 10 miles or nothing. In that same way, I can’t merely state that I’ll check my Facebook “just for a little bit.” I have to either set a time restriction for myself or not go on at all.

Similarly, my mind becomes very caught up in the images I see on social media. I admire women like Morghan King and Stefi Cohen, gals that are my height (yes, five feet and one inch tall!) and can lift way more than twice their body weight. But in reality, that will never be me. I’m learning to accept that fact, that God didn’t make me to deadlift over 400 pounds. And that’s ok. In my quest to rediscover who I am in Christ, Jesus has shown me that those females I loved watching on IG and FB are NOT me. Yes, I can have lifting goals. Yes, I can hit the platform because it’s fun to load up a barbell and see what I can do. But I’m not going to break world records because that is not the plan God would have for me. He designed me for something more, and although I’m not quite sure even what that looks like, I do know that my hope and identity is not in how much weight I can squat, bench, or deadlift. This revelation doesn’t mean I will stop going to the gym, but I am now training for a different purpose. I used to want to be Morghan or Stefi. I wanted to earn titles and accolades, to be first place in everything that I did. But those medals, they are not the reason I was placed on this earth.

One example of this is my recent decision to make a concerted effort to get up in weight. My RP coach wants me at least 107-109 pounds. My husband thinks 115 pounds is more reasonable. When those two first approached me about being those numbers, to be honest, I initially balked. Why? Because I could compete in the 97 pound weight class and qualify for a national competition. Given the numbers required to qualify, I could easily hit that now. But for what? Aren’t I in this sport to challenge myself? To see myself grow as an athlete and individual? Isn’t part of the draw to powerlifting putting in hard work in order to show that perseverence is a key to success? Shouldn’t I want to test myself and go beyond my comfort level? If so, then staying at 102 pounds would be ridiculous. I need to gain weight in order to actually do some “hard work” on the platform.

And so I am at the place now where I am eating to be heavier–107, 109, 110, 115 pounds–because I know that that additional weight makes me stronger physically as well as mentally and spiritually. I can’t engage in the sport of powerlifting whole-heartedly if I am not at a weight that allows me to push myself and see what physical strength God has blessed me with. Similarly, I am also going to continue to refrain from looking at my Facebook and Instagram for extreme amounts of time, save for a random five minutes or so while lying in bed before falling asleep. And while I do miss seeing hilarious memes and reading even more hilarious threads, I am enjoying the moments I actually get to spend with my family. God is showing me more about Him in the weight gain and social media restriction process, and it leaves me in awe at how He has been able to use scripture to do so (more about that in a later post). But for now, I think I’ve spent enough time on technology. It’s time to put away the device, play with my kids, and live life.


Ramblings and Revelations

I can blame it on genetics, since my mother weighed less than 100 pounds on her wedding day and my father entered the army after high school measuring in at a hefty 115 pounds. I can say that I have a small boned frame as I am half Japanese and half Okinawan. I can also claim that my body is just made to be “small”, as even when pregnant I never weighed more than a whopping 125 pounds. But the fact of the matter is, I am still in need of putting on some pounds.

This is not a crazy revelation to anyone that has been around me, oh, for the past year or two. After giving birth to my son in July 2015, the act of nursing plus working full time plus being a mommy to my daughter plus keeping the house in somewhat clean shape whittled my weight down to a whopping 100 pounds. During this time I was still hitting the platform to clean and jerk and snatch, and while I could heft my bodyweight (and even a little more) overhead, I wanted to add more plates to the barbell. I saw Mattie Rodgers’ biceps bulging while maintaining her wide-armed front rack position, and I ogled Morghan King’s meaty thighs as she exploded out of her high bar squats. Basically, I wanted to be stronger, more thick, just MORE. But in order to do so, I needed to gain weight.

So I tried doing a variety of options—I went back to seeing my old eating disorder dietitian but that didn’t work out. I enrolled in our gym’s Transformation Challenge (muscle gain category, mind you) in order to keep myself accountable to gaining weight, and sure enough, I saw the scale move up five pounds in a span of 12 weeks. I felt victorious, as weighing 105 pounds awarded me first place in the female muscle gain category, yet fast forward a few months, and I was once again back down to 100 pounds. Well, more like 102. Regardless, I was not where I needed to be. I knew I needed some kind of eating regimen to follow, and Paul Salter with Renaissance Periodization gave me a wonderful template. He started me off on maintenance, meaning I first needed to just get used to eating regularly throughout the day a certain amount of fats, carbs, and proteins. Maintenance agreed with me, and I was soon heading off into massing land.

This is where the rubber met the road, and where I am still struggling. I would gain a pound or two or three, and then internally freak out. Why should my heart be filled with fear when what I wanted was to get stronger and the only way to do so was to gain weight? Paul is great in that he basically told me that by not following the template he provided, I was throwing my money down the drain. His statement was true, and so every time I was faced with having to eat another bite of peanut butter or chicken, I thought about my hard earned paycheck, and how NOT scooping myself another mound of rice was akin to a check being chewed up by the garbage disposal.

And yet, I cut corners. I would save up my allotted fat and carb servings for the end of the day because I was fearful that I’d crave them at night and then overeat. But by the time my bedtime snack was ready to be eaten, I felt physically full and couldn’t stomach the thought of adding cereal or nuts to my already dense mound of casein pudding with peanut butter, almonds, and banana (don’t knock it until you’ve tried it). Every Monday and Thursday when I’d report to Paul on my eating consistency and weight, I’d feel this huge letdown—I imagined him opening up my email, already expecting to see that I was missing a fat serving on my food log and stagnating in weight gain. I felt like a failure on multiple levels.

During this time I was still lifting weights, and in fact competed in a powerlifting meet where I weighed in at 45kg. My daily training was taxing as heavy deadlifts and squats will take its toll on the nervous system, especially on a system that is being under nourished. I still looked forward to putting on my knee sleeves for leg workouts or wrapping up my wrists to bench, but I was beginning to feel a sense of monotony. I can’t quite explain it, but I felt stagnant, in my lifts and in my mind and spirit. I’d bench up to 100#, and then feel like that was it. I had no more to give. I’d squat 135#, and anything above that felt like arduous work.

A few weeks ago I was prompted by D’Lissa to meditate on scripture like it was medicine, so I opened up Psalm 23 multiple times throughout the day. Reading about Jesus as the shepherd opened my eyes, yet it was a recent conversation I had with a friend in California when God spoke loudly and clearly. The morning started out like any other, as I had just gone through Psalm 23 during my quiet time. The one line about walking through the valley of the shadow of death, however, leaped out from the page. Mind you, I am nowhere near dying, as my heart is beating well and I can function at work and home. But there are signs that my spirit is ill. How do I know that is so? It’s because I feel gray. My heart bursts with unspeakable joy when I see Shogun smile or hear Misha sing, but I don’t have the capacity to connect the joy in my heart to the joy I know I am missing in my spirit. My emotional mothering side can feel, but my spirit side cannot. The passage reaffirmed this revelation, and so I mentioned this to my California friend immediately after putting down my Bible. I described to her that it is like when I have a cold and my head feels disconnected to my body. That is my situation from when I wake up to the moment my head hits the pillow at night–fuzzy, unclear, and BLAH. My California pal said that I should pray on it more, but that maybe separating the identity I have in God from my athletic achievements will clear the fogginess.

My identity in Christ? What? Don’t I already know what that is?

I like to think that I do, but in fact, I am still grappling with it. It’s a bit embarrassing to admit, considering I just talked about identity at one of our school’s Christian Emphasis Week seminars. But I am falling back into relying on a title more than Jesus to define who I am.

Remember when I said I was always small? Being the “small but strong girl” is a title that I didn’t realize I clung to until I sat down this morning after my conversation with my California friend. I like other people recognizing that I am slight of build but can move around weights that are massive in comparison to my size. Since I look for that athletic validation from friends (“Wow!!! You lifted that? How much do you weigh again?”), there is fear in what will happen when I do gain weight. What if my squats still feel heavy and I don’t add on weight to my bench? What if friends and family make comments about my suddenly burgeoning stomach, legs, and arms? I know what I can do as a 102# lifter, and it actually is pretty remarkable to be able to handle the weights I currently do given the stressful schedule I have as a mother, wife, and teacher.

But what can I do at a higher weight? It’s unknown, and that lack of knowledge leaves fear in my spirit. My coach and Paul say that at a higher body weight my lifts will definitely improve, which is somewhat comforting. Heck, even my husband who has no experience in powerlifting says the same thing. Yet I’m still fearful because gaining weight will make me lose my title. What title will I then have?

I know I can title myself as a “child of God” or “a person made in God’s image.” But that is hard to describe and feel. I am very right-brained, so I want the facts and figures, the numbers and black and white outline, to tell me what my title is. But in reality, do I even NEED a title??? Why do I feel the desire to have to label myself? Is it so that I can get validation from other people so that immediately upon seeing my title, they will accept and “know me”?

Maybe. I am still praying through all of this, so excuse this long-winded post, as it’s basically everything that’s in my head erupting on the computer. I definitely need more time to process this all, as even thinking about being made in God’s image is mystifying. God is so many things: a Father, a lover of my soul, a comforter, a provided, a healer, a king. The list goes on and on, so how do I even begin to come to terms that I am made in that image?? It literally leaves me in awestruck wonder. I will return to this blog and document more about my processing of this identity issue.

The challenging part about processing is being bombarded with images on Instagram and Facebook. I see powerlifters, short gals with thick thighs, tall women with lanky legs, and I compare. And so for a week, yes, just a week, I am challenging myself not to add to those barrage of pictures and videos of deadlifting females. Instead, I am refraining from putting up any athletic-centered posts. This challenge may not seem grand to the normal person, but my husband (and many of my friends and family) know that I put up a lot of lifting shots on my IG page. A. LOT. I love going on Instagram to zone out on pictures (Look! A cute dog! Look! Food!), but if all my feed produces are videos of my squatting, benching, and deadlifting, then something is amiss because the Big 3 are not my life. God is. My family is. My friends are.

Anyway, that is the plan for now. Refrain from posting on social media all of my normal gym stuff. That, and really following the plan Paul has set for me TO THE TEE. I don’t need an accountability partner, as that is what I am enlisting Paul’s help for and I am an adult who knows what I need to do. But I need to just take that leap of faith. Become bigger, not just so that I can lift heavier weights, but to break the title, the label, that says I am the “small girl.” Because in reality, didn’t God make me for a wondrous and glorious purpose, and NOT just to be looked at as “the tiny girl who benchs a lot”?

If you lasted this long reading this post, thank you. ☺ I will surely update you all on the new revelations God is giving.


I Shall Not Want

The Lord is my shepherd. I shall not want.

Those are two sentences I’ve repeated over and over again, so much so, that they are emblazoned on my heart and in my brain. But in reality, do I really think about what those words mean?

No. I don’t. Prior to this Fall Break, my prayer and quiet time life was in a solid rut. I still read my Bible every morning and shouted out a few “Amens!” on the way to school with Misha and Shogun. But the “thank yous” and “please watch overs” were becoming rote. Monotonous. So much so, that with glazed eyes, staring off out of the car window at 6:30am every morning, even Misha was imitating my lacksidasical “…and please watch over mommy and daddy and Shogun and Puna and Papa and Grandma and Grandpa and amen.”


So when D’Lissa from Breath of Life Ministries suggested that I spend time throughout the day meditating on scripture to heal my fractured, stressed, and overworked spirit, I immediately felt a pull to start reading His word. Now. For the past week I’ve looked at Psalm 23, one of the most well known passages and one that my mother dearly loved. When dealing with the possibility of cancer taking over her life, my mom clung to this psalm and found extreme comfort in David’s words. I still remember her furrowed brow relaxing into a content smile as she read and reread the six lines over and over again.

And so on a quiet Monday morning last week, when the husband and kids were still nestled in their Kauai hotel room beds, I stared at the first verse. And read it. And stared. And read it again.

The Lord is my shepherd. I shall not want.

“What are you saying, Jesus? What exactly should I ‘get’ out of you being my shepherd?” The thoughts roamed in my head and the more I stared at those black printed lines, the revelation came to me.

I want many things in life. Achievements in work, achievements in the gym, achievements with my family. I want to come home and not feel the uncomfortableness that I have a zillion problems and issues to deal with, but rather, I want to be perfectly at peace and to let the worries fall off my shoulders like a waterfall cascading down worn and weathered rocks. I want to feel loved and accepted even when I’m awkward and fail. There are so many things that I “want” and if I were to dwell over each of these items (Did I achieve all of the goals I set out for myself? Am I being the best mother, teacher, wife, and friend I can be?), I’d be a BIG MESS.

Sadly, I was hemming and hawing over these details from the moment my eyes opened to when I laid my head down at night: What if I don’t plan my English lessons perfectly and the students end up not being able to analyze a piece of fiction effectively? What if I miss this set of deadlifts and end up injuring myself? What if I don’t spend enough time reading with Shogun or talking with Misha? Can my relationship with my husband be stronger? What am I doing wrong?

The “what ifs” were killing me, causing my already tired brain to work overtime. It was only when I sat with this first verse from Psalm 23, that I realized that David was feeling the same as me, yet he did the complete opposite of what I was doing. Rather than attempt to handle all the questions himself, he turned to God, the shepherd.

I live in Hawaii and rarely (if at all) do I see sheep, so I had to actually look up what a shepherd’s job entails. Basically, this man guides and directs the flock to where they need to go–sometimes he must ward off predators to ensure the sheeps’ safety and other times he must discipline the sheep so they don’t stray. Either way, the shepherd is there to do the “hard work”, all the steering and rearing. If God is my shepherd, and he will be guiding me to a place of safety with His mighty hand, why SHOULD I “want”? Do sheep worry about wolves coming and attacking them? No. Do sheep worry about where there next meal will come from? No. Why so? Because they have complete and total trust that the shepherd will be there. If sheep can have that kind of trust in their shepherd, why can’t I have that same type of trust in mine?

It’s a process I am still learning and growing in. I am used to wanting to do any and everything on my own terms. Giving control to my shepherd is challenging, especially when it comes to situations that I have no control over but want control in (more on that in another post). But hour by hour, day by day, the more I sit with these two sentences, the more I am leaning on God rather than my own actions and thoughts to bring peace.

One last quick example of Psalm 23 in action: After returning from Kauai, I took the two kiddos to a crazily crowded mall for lunch. By myself. I was at my wit’s end, what with a person stealing a parking spot from me, the toddler whining for juice, and the six-year old saying she wanted pizza RIGHT NOW. Besides being completely overwhelmed with all the noise and stress, I started questioning myself. “What are you doing? You should be more prepared. Why didn’t you bring the juice from home? Your child shouldn’t be crying this much.” But then as soon as that incessant negative voice started its’ tyrannical talk, I thought about the Lord being my shepherd. Yes, the little guy was crying and yes, it totally got my blood boiling when a Mustang swooped in and grabbed the parking spot I was waiting for. But why worry? God was watching over me. He was guiding me. He was protecting from way back when and will continue to help me. So I repeated that first verse over and over, over and over. And you know what? The tension in my head, the knots in my shoulders, the overwhelming urge I had to cry out in frustration dissipated. We found a parking, the boy got some OJ, and the girl got her cheese slice. Jesus provided peace (and food and drink), and although it was for something as small and incidental as a crazy shopping expedition, there is solace in knowing that I DON’T need to “want” because God is truly the only thing I “want” and need.


Fall Break Renewal

Fall Break.

Fall Break.

Fall Break.

Three weeks ago, when I was knee deep reading sophomore essays and writing comments on students’ report card, just the thought of those two words made my heart flutter in whitsful anticipation.  The ending of the quarter was a particularly stressful period, what with grading, planning, parenting, and adulting taking its’ toll.  My stress level got so high that I resorted to finding solace and peace by doing what came naturally to me:  distracting myself with unnecessary things so that I wouldn’t have to deal with the real issue, or issues, at hand.  Obviously, as evidenced by the fact that by the time October 5th rolled around, I still had knots of tension throughout my body, and I felt like I wanted to just sit in a room and do nothing.  Absolutely nothing.  It was at that moment that I knew I needed something, a miraculous God intervention.

Thankfully at just that moment our Fall Break began.  I was ready to kick my feet up and veg out watching reruns of “Entourage”, but of course, the kids kept me occupied.  Spending days running around the park or traversing the Honolulu Zoo with a six and two year old are not the most calming and restful activities to engage in.  So when my husband suggested we go to Kauai for the weekend to visit my cousin and his family, I was excited but also apprehensive.  Traveling with two kids under the age of 10?  Packing for all of us?  Making sure we brought the toy cars for the little guy and enough snacks for the little girl?  It was a stress just thinking about all the preparations.  But I agreed to the trip, knowing that I missed seeing my long-lost Kauai relatives and getting the opportunity to just slow down.  Eventually the big travel day rolled around, and just like that we were off on a forty minute plane ride to the Garden Isle.

And what a vacation it was.  We just returned from a three day stay, and I’ll detail more about the great activities we did at the exquisite Marriott Waiohai (Create your own cupcake!  Temporary tattoo fun!) and the adventures we had with my cousin, his wife, and their two kids (Visiting Kamalani Park!  Eating at all the hot local spots!) in another post.  One highlight of this three day jaunt that I must share about now, however, was attending Breath of Life Ministries for church service the day before our departure.

Normally when we are on vacation we don’t attend church (I know, I know) as it’s too much hustle to get everyone ready for a service before noon.  But on this trip, we wanted to check out Pastor Tom’s service, so we made the quick drive over to Rice Street and listened to an impassioned teaching on the book of Revelations on a very humid Sunday morning.  The worship got my feet tapping, as there was a mix of original songs and a Van Morrison classic being played, but what really spoke to me was a conversation I had with the D’Lissa, the pastor’s wife.  After service was over I approached her to talk about an upcoming small group she was going to run.  It is going to be centered around psychology, and how when the mind is fractured and unhealthy, this spiritual and emotional illness leaks into the body and spirit.

So.  Me.  Right.  Now.

Hearing D’Lissa speak about the different components of the study and how the basis of it will be focused around meditating on God’s word throughout the day, I felt the Holy Spirit opening my heart, saying, “THIS.  THIS is what I want you to hear.”

During moments of stress, I’m akin to resort to my own means of finding peace, whether it’s engaging in another activity to get my mind off what’s really bothering me or yelling and crying in frustration at the challenging situation.  Either way, I never really feel like those actions are things God wants me to do.  I know that I should stop and seek Him in prayer during those trying times, but it’s hard to do so when I’m instead tempted to clean the house or go on social media (distraction, anyone???). Or even worse, I just curl into the fetal position on my bed and bawl and swear and cry. Letting the pent up emotions out isn’t necessarily bad, but after my moaning and crying, I never actually resolve the feelings of frustration that I feel. So when D’Lissa started talking about prayer and meditation being like medicine–a person takes it when she is not feeling well–I felt a pull in my heart that yes, in fact, I need God’s medicine in my life. If I were depressed and the psychiatrist gave me Zoloft to combat my illness, I’d take it everyday at a certain prescribed time. Why not do the same with my prayer life?

And so from that morning, I resolved to focus on a certain passage of scripture every day for one week, and like my medicine or food, I would seek the Holy Spirit to show me what He wants me to find from His word. I started looking at Psalm 23 on Monday, and just from carving out instances throughout the day when I am stopping, reading, praying, and focusing on the Lord as my shepherd, I already am feeling my heart more calm and steady and my tense shoulders releasing.

As the week progresses, I will certainly keep you updated on what God is showing me through His word. Fall Break. It is certainly shaping up to be one of greatest and most renewing vacations to date.